About

Everyone thinks they want this big, massive change.

Better life, more money, bigger house, nicer car. A hotter wife/husband, less trouble with their kids, more fun friends. More holidays, less stress at work. More interesting stories to tell when having dinner with friends.

The truth is - most people want to stay the same, but just have an easier life.

Ease and comfort is what your lower, instinctive, animal mind craves.

But you are on this planet not only to survive. You have been gifted with executive functions of your mind to pursue a higher minded mission. A greater purpose. A solid legacy to leave behind. To have mattered and to be remembered fondly, with reverence and deep love.

Most people visiting this page will become aware that change is hard and that I can’t promise you a transformation that you’re not ready for. Hopefully you will also realise that I can’t MAKE you do ANYTHING.

Here Is What I Can Do:

confront you with clear evidence of what your life demonstrates. “What you really want” is obvious. Clear as day. Right in front of you, you live it every day and just don’t realise it. I will show you that
confront you with the fears you’ve held in higher regard than a new life - and offer you a new start. It will be your choice and decision to make. Equally, you will be the one implementing it. BUT - you won’t be walking the road alone like you have thus far. I have walked the path thousands of times with my clients and for myself that you will now attempt for the first time. I will be delighted to stand by you while you make this amazing transformation happen
confront you thinking small and going for small dreams. In “What you really want” we won’t do comfortable, safe and easy. Together we do real, true and authentic. I will hold you to your greater self - and you will thank me later once you live a kickass life and laugh about your past struggles

Why I Do This?

Everything that I have ever done personally and professionally has been for my mum and dad. Having watched them divorce when I was 2 as they couldn’t figure out this relationship thing with a young child.

Then watching my mum never love another man the same way, feeling undeserving of love, struggling financially and living a reclusive life. On the other hand, watching my dad living in a different country, being emotionally shut down, struggling to be present with me without needing to distract himself with tv, phone or whatever else.

Watching this genius man, my dad… The greatest man I’ve ever known - play small and not feel as loved as he could be if only he would let us in.

It broke my heart, over and over.

Now, thanks to that, I have spent my lifetime figuring out human consciousness, emotional pain and true higher love, combined with career achievement and energised states of fulfilment at work. My answers have allowed me to create profound results in professional and personal goals that I continuously set for myself as well.

Through my achievements, both my parents softened and released a portion of their pain in their now separate lives. They have come closer to each other again over the achievement of their common child. Their pain of the past has now been worth it to them - seeing me thrive and do so well in life.

But there are still many more dads and mums feeling the same pain.

The same feeling - lost, unworthy, and not finding fulfilment in life.

Despite it being simple to grasp and obtain.

The process “What you really want” is the result of 10 years of empirical research + degree after degree, certificate after certificate, course after course, workshop after workshop, private coaching after private coaching, and more…

To deliver you a simple, foolproof formula that guarantees you access to your inner truth and bring it to light. So that you can finally live it and be compensated beautifully for your efforts.

So that you may be a deeply happy human. So that you may elevate the people around you. So that we all may live in a stronger, more resilient tribe.

So that there is more meaning to life. More love, closeness and belonging.

So that you can live as an example to those around you looking up to you. So that you can elevate yourself to those you admire and feel worth more.

So that you can create more wealth, more freedom and rise beyond what you believed possible. Here’s to your journey, to you breaking all records - and to living “What you really want” every day

Personal Details About Oksana

“Where are you really from?”

This is one of the hardest questions for me.
Practically, I am a global citizen, living on multiple continents for extended periods of time in the past three decades.
Genetically, I’m about a quarter of Latvian, Ukrainian, Russian and Polish.
My first name is Ukrainian, because I was born there and my dad insisted (thanks, dad…). My last name is Polish, thanks to a handsome Polish officer who my great grandmother was greatly in love with, but the relationship didn’t last longer than her taking on his name and a child. Now all of us have this guy’s name! For 20 years I lived in Latvia and I consider myself Latvian by heritage (+ quarter Russian).

Twist of fate: when I was 17 I travelled to Germany and fell in love… also with the country! So for 10 years I lived in Germany, became a naturalised citizen and now I consider this my adopted home in Frankfurt, Germany
Most recently: I spent 3 years nomadically travelling full-time with my partner Robin (mainly South Africa and Europe). Having given up my apartment and living on the road and out of a suitcase I learned a lot. It made our relationship what it is today, highly resilient and adaptable. Travelling is definitely high in my values.

“What else do you love beyond Personal consulting & human behavioural studies?”

The outdoors, extended time in nature and sports is where my heart sings. A real hike is from 3h and 10km upwards by the way, which I love to do weekly.

Dancing Brazilian Zouk is my third love, it has been with me for 10 years and fills my heart with connection and joy like nothing else. Highly recommend it to expand your definition of closeness, sensuality and how you feel about your body and letting other people in.

“What’s your secret to your own achievement in life?”

It’s definitely - take consistent daily action and measure it regularly!

Write down your goals and action steps, review them regularly and find habits that support effective execution.

Everyone is different, so find what works for you and stick to it

For example - my yearly goals are my gold and my habits around those are worth a fortune to me. I don’t celebrate New Years, but do what I call “Reflections” instead. On 31st of December I will spend a few hours going through the past year and my goals/intentions for it. Then documenting what I achieved in all 7 areas of my life. Often I will go to bed without fireworks, but get up early to catch the sunrise on a hilly spot - to see far away for a greater vision, and spend time looking ahead into the future of what I’d love to create in the 7 areas of life.

Rinse and repeat every New Years to feel connected with your goals and vision for the future

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